3.5
The age of my daughter. The age of the start of my "trying threes" confusion. The age of more tantrums, sassy talk, screaming, wicked memory, and so much more, do I really need to go on?
I am perplexed. Dumbfounded. LOST. I have no clue how to deal with some of the tantrums I have had in the last week or so. I am starving for a directory. For a book to read. Other parents to give me WORKING advice. Anything.
There was a situation at a friend's house this evening that has given me one HUGE lesson learned. Not going into the details of things. But out of Mallory's actions a friend of hers was hurt. Not severely-no stitches, band-aids. But enough to cause the kid to cry. I right away jumped to conclusions (ASSUMED--which I remember one of my teachers telling me when you ASSUME you make an ASS our of U and ME) without truly listening to either child.
Thank GOD I have my husband. When we got home, he took her aside and LISTENED. Truly listened. Questioned. And discovered it was an accident. I felt like and still feel like an ass. When I try and wrap my head around the scene, I can see that it makes sense. I mean she has never acted that way before and she was apologizing when I approached them. BUT, what I've seen of her these last few weeks has caused me to jump to these conclusions.
She's fine now. Her bubbly self. Chatting a mile a minute. And now finally asleep. Lesson learned: LISTEN and ASK. You would think that I would be able to apply my 10.5 years of teaching and dealing with behavior issues in my classroom to my own HOME and child. Yeah, guess I was in the clouds on that one.
It amazes me how quickly her personality can change. She wakes up in the morning and she's a real grump but any mention of an animal outside or her favorite cartoon show--and she is happy. Same with nap time or any other tantrum. If I distract her, she almost forgets she was having an issue. Please tell me this is not foreshadowing her teenage years.
I keep reminding myself she is only 3 1/2 years old. Trying to understand, figure out, and deal with her emotions and those around her. Gosh, I can't even deal with my emotions all the time! How do I teacher== a 3 1/2 year old??? Patience, modeling, honestly, and LOVE. Sound good? Cause that's what I'm going with.
Parenting is difficult. I knew when I signed up for this job. I never thought it was easy, but I sure as heck didn't think it would be this hard.
Top 10 for the week:
10. My Little Helper. Earlier in the week Mal helped me out a lot with chores around the house. She was SO pumped about doing it. Everything from spraying the bathtub with water to cooking Peach Cobbler to washing dishes. The more she's a part of the better she behaves. I need to remember this:o)
9. Fruit Flies. Our house has been invaded by fruit flies. Advice from a friend for a deadly concoction has caused us to have MANY casualties in our house. One day I counted 25 or so in BOTH glasses. I put the glasses away yesterday and realized I was much too eager to think we had ridden ourselves of these pesky annoyances. Mal helped me make another batch that has filled two glasses on our windowsill.
8. Play date. Midweek we had a great play date with new friends. Play time, lunch, golf cart ride, and picking Concord grapes made for quite the fun time. Time seemed to slip away before we even knew it!
7. Sunday Dinner. Sunday dinner this week was done by my dear friend. We enjoyed adult company while the kids played well and enjoyed the outdoors. Meal was delicious and we had fun.
6. Malloryisms.
"I make good chili." (Sitting down at our chili dinner she proclaims to all of us)
"Mommy, if you are going to be a witch you will need a sweeper." (Broom)
"I think the caffeine in Nana's drink is making me not sleep." (Referring to Diet Pepsi SIP and nap time)
"Mommy, did we read the page about the cat?" (Calling me out on skipping a few pages in Mr. Gumpy's Ride--I read AT LEAST 3 books a night. Come on kid, give me a break)
5. Monday Morning Yard work. YES, I did yard work on a Monday morning in the FALL. It was beautiful. The kids LOVED it. And so did I. It's nice to be able to be outside at this time of the year. And it's even better when the kids can entertain themselves with the outdoors. Mal's "friend" the Stink Bug had quite the fun time. She made him a cozy bed, cover up, and little house. We saw another one today and she thought it was the same one. So cute.
4. Clayton's Locksmith Skills AGAIN. I know. It's true. Clayton locked himself in the car AGAIN. AND Jay was there. It went like this. Doing more yard work today. Put Clay in the little red truck to stay contained due to the fact we were working close to our busy road. Plus he LOVES pretending to steer. Car was off. Windows were cracked. Oh and I should mention it's an older truck so you have to do everything MANUALLY. Our little man, locked (no clue really how) both doors. His smile a mile wide, jumping up and down on the seat, with the keys in hand. I tried coaxing him to come to me. No such luck. I had to step on Jay's knee, stick my hand in the cracked window, and pull the door open. Will we ever learn????
3. Home SICK. Mal had a little temp (never reaching over 99.5) on Tuesday so I kept her home from school. IF I would have worked that day, I probably would have sent her to school. BUT I wasn't working. So she stayed home with Clay and me. I also had: NO sub plans. NO calls to fellow teacher friends and to day care. NO rushing around. It was bliss.
2. Clay and Potty. Clayton has peed in the potty TWICE. He has an obsession with not having pants on. And has taken a liking to the potty. He loves to flush the toilet and watch the water go down. He will occasionally put little pieces of toilet paper (much, much smaller than his sisters!!) in and almost stick his head in to watch it. Two days this week he took his diaper off around the potty. I took FULL FLEDGED advantage of this and put him on the pot. To our amazement and HIS (such a quizzical look on his face), he went. Stay tuned. I think his obsession is more about the actual toilet itself. I'm worried about him plugging the toilet with odd and random things. We will see.
1. Sweet Mallory. Hard to believe that I would write all those things at the top of my blog and then end with my sweet Mallory but that's how I feel. I guess I want her back. Or shall I say I want her sweet all the time. This week when we were having our before bedtime "cuddle" (we usually just talk about things that are going on, pray, or talk about future stuff) she put her little hand on my cheek and said "I love you Mommy."
Mallory is a lover of little kids, ANY creature big or small, nature, being cozy, dancing, princesses, using her scissors, her room (which she is LOVES to play in now), and her family (even her brother--who she will at times do ANYTHING for). We will get through this. I can guarantee you that. Even if it means more time outs than usual or more early bedtimes or more RESEARCH (from friends and family, and whatever I can grasp hold of). My sweet Mallory is SWEET. And SO lovable.
Here we come week!! Monday is knocking on the door. And I am ready for a new start.
I hope you enjoy your first week of October.
Mrs. Newell
Sunday, September 30, 2012
Sunday, September 23, 2012
Unexpected Visit
An unexpected visit to see my old students on Friday, caused a moment of reflection.
I wasn't suppose to head into school on Friday. It was not planned. A total spur of the moment thing. Three weeks in and I was already making a visit? Could this be true? YES. It is true. And honestly, I'm surprised it took me this long. Teaching and the school have been too much a part of my life to step away from it cold turkey. I will always be a Raider. I will always feel welcomed there. And I will always feel a part of the Decatur family. With that being said, here's the WELCOME I received that WILL bring me back to teaching whenever the time comes.
When I walked into the cafeteria with my two kids in tow, I never truly expected to get the welcome I was given. I honestly felt like a celebrity. Okay, maybe that is a bit of an exaggeration. But I felt pretty special. And loved. And in the limelight. And just plain great. That's a celebrity right? Anyways, it still makes my heart happy reflecting upon the scene we made in there.
About 30 or so 6th grade kids rushed over to hug, jump up and down in excitement, smile, and/or say hello to my kids and me. AND more kept coming! All I could hear was "Mrs. Newell!" "We've missed you!" "Your kids are so cute!" "So excited to see you!" If I EVER once had doubted that my role as a teacher influenced lives, this scene would prove me wrong.
We sat. Had lunch with the kids. And oh the stories they told.
"My sister had her baby. She is so cute. She's only 3 1/2 weeks old."
"I'm doing really well in Math this year." (From like three of them. Yes, I taught math to them last year)
"My brother can drive now. He's 15."
"Did you see the new neighbors that moved in down the dirt road by you?" (a student neighbor)
"My grandma has to have surgery this weekend. I'll be stuck in the hospital all weekend."
"I got braces."
"Did you notice my haircut? It's longer now. But it was really short."
"I'm playing football. See my jersey."
"I grew a lot over the summer. I am taller than you."
"My aunt had her baby."
"Did you notice my new glasses?"
To share a few....so cute. And there were MANY comments on my own kids. Many. All trying to chat with Mal and Clay. Trying to get them to give them high-5's or say Hello. So sweet and genuine.
We said our good-byes and I reassured them I would be back. How could I not?? When the walked out the door, it hit me. Hard. I started to cry. Tears of gratitude. Tears of reassurance. Who knows. I just felt really moved. Really missed.
We took a long, walk down the hallway to say Hello to fellow co-workers and friends and to catch up. It was so great to see familiar, smiley faces. Hugs, laughter, small talk. It was wonderful.
A lovely visit which left me pondering. How in the world can I LOVE two jobs? How in the world can I do TWO jobs? I can't tell you how many times people have asked me if I am going back next year. Friday's scene had me think twice. But, last year was a horrible year for me. Trying to balance being a good teacher and mom was just too much. I honestly don't know how working moms do it. How they keep themselves collected.
My friend/co-worker who witnessed the scene and who knows me so well gave helpful advice. Stay at home--where I should be for a few years, where I want to be--then head back into the classroom. "Your tears show that you are a great teacher." And how could I not? Is it that simple? Who knows. I just thought this leaving business would be easier than it has been. I thought I would leave without looking back. Oh, how I was SO wrong.
Top 10 for the week:
This week was great! Lots of funny, cute memories that I am excited to share!
10. Hairdresser. I cut Clay's hair. No I am not licensed. No I have never cut hair before (if Barbie hair doesn't count). It was a first and it won't be the last. I have not found another calling like my mother thinks. BUT I will be saving us money every three or so months on Clayton's haircuts.
9. TV. I had a day without television this week. Not that big of a deal. In fact, the only time I watch TV is at night after the kids go to bed. A bit of an unwinder. But after getting everything done for the day, I read instead. It was great. Even greater that I can brag about not watching TV for a day:o)
8. Daddy & Daughter Dinner. This past Sunday Mal and Jay cooked dinner together. A breakfast dinner of pancakes, bacon, and hash browns. It was priceless. Mal in her T-shirt and underwear, standing on top of a chair, flipping pancakes alongside her Daddy. Adorable. And even more adorable how in sync they were with each other. Smiling, laughing, having a ball. Sunday dinners will now be made by Mallory and Daddy. Tonight is chili.
7. Clay's Check-up. We have a big boy on our hands. 97% in height, 86% in weight, and STILL off the charts with his BIG head. EVERY single time I go to the doctor with Clay he asks me WHO has the big head in the family! And EVERY time he sizes up MY head and nods understandingly. UGH. Yes people, I have a big head. Thank-you dad. Anyways, he did well and the doctor confirmed what I already knew. His nonverbal cues show he is smart. He will talk. Someday. (We were ordered to get rid of the paci. Hard when you have a screamer in public and in the car and anywhere).
6. God's Timing. Tuesday on our way to drop of Mallory to preschool, we noticed a HUGE rainbow. Mal LOVES rainbows. I pulled over in the gas station so she could see it. I told her it was a good luck sign from God to wish her well at school. Love the grin that girl gives. Needless to say, I will be pulling over with EVERY rainbow from now on.
5. French Fry. Thursday after picking Mal up from school, we grabbed Wendy's for a picnic in the park. Clay was screaming in the backseat due to hunger pains. Mal was clutching onto her Kid's Meal. I asked her if she could give Clay a fry. To my utter surprise she did. In fact, after pulling it out of her bag, she blew on it to cool it down, and then proceeded to tell him to make sure to take small bites and that it might be hot. Love my little mother hen.
4. Nana's Visit. Having my mom visit is always a blessing. Not only because the kids LOVE her but it also gives me a little break. Due to requests, I don't have to go through Mallory's LONG, bedtime routine or even take her to the potty. Small, but SO big. Thanks mom. Love you. Come ANYTIME you want.
3. Mallory quotes for the week:
"I smell like angels." Referring to touching my Guardian angel pin in the car. No honey, that's metal.
"No mom, that is not a baby deer. It is two years old. It doesn't have spots." Wow. Guess I need to listen to Daddy and Papa more. Miss All-Animals-Are-My-Friends.
2. Girl's Night Out. Oh Kattie Northrup. Where would I be without you??? LOST. She drove with me up to Kalamazoo Thursday night to shop at the mall, buy groceries at Meijer, and have ice cream at Coldstone Creamery. It was AWESOME. And I love how we can catch up so quickly with no dull moments. Girl time, catching up, and shopping. What is not to love about that?
1. Clayton the Locksmith*. Oh Sir Clayton. He is one smart boy. While Mal was at school on Tuesday, Clay and I headed to Walgreens. On the way out I let him play with my keys. I buckled him into his seat, closed the door, and was about to put our purchases in the car when the car alarm started going off. YES, Clayton locked himself in our car. You should have seen the look on that boy's face. Pure joy. PURE joy. I was freaked. TOTALLY. Luckily, it only lasted a second because then I noticed he was continually pushing the buttons on the clicker. I was able to open the door at one point and turn OFF the alarm. Oh, the joys of motherhood.
That is it friendly readers. Have a great week!! Let's hope it will be as great as last:o)
Mrs. Newell
*My school visit tied for #1
I wasn't suppose to head into school on Friday. It was not planned. A total spur of the moment thing. Three weeks in and I was already making a visit? Could this be true? YES. It is true. And honestly, I'm surprised it took me this long. Teaching and the school have been too much a part of my life to step away from it cold turkey. I will always be a Raider. I will always feel welcomed there. And I will always feel a part of the Decatur family. With that being said, here's the WELCOME I received that WILL bring me back to teaching whenever the time comes.
When I walked into the cafeteria with my two kids in tow, I never truly expected to get the welcome I was given. I honestly felt like a celebrity. Okay, maybe that is a bit of an exaggeration. But I felt pretty special. And loved. And in the limelight. And just plain great. That's a celebrity right? Anyways, it still makes my heart happy reflecting upon the scene we made in there.
About 30 or so 6th grade kids rushed over to hug, jump up and down in excitement, smile, and/or say hello to my kids and me. AND more kept coming! All I could hear was "Mrs. Newell!" "We've missed you!" "Your kids are so cute!" "So excited to see you!" If I EVER once had doubted that my role as a teacher influenced lives, this scene would prove me wrong.
We sat. Had lunch with the kids. And oh the stories they told.
"My sister had her baby. She is so cute. She's only 3 1/2 weeks old."
"I'm doing really well in Math this year." (From like three of them. Yes, I taught math to them last year)
"My brother can drive now. He's 15."
"Did you see the new neighbors that moved in down the dirt road by you?" (a student neighbor)
"My grandma has to have surgery this weekend. I'll be stuck in the hospital all weekend."
"I got braces."
"Did you notice my haircut? It's longer now. But it was really short."
"I'm playing football. See my jersey."
"I grew a lot over the summer. I am taller than you."
"My aunt had her baby."
"Did you notice my new glasses?"
To share a few....so cute. And there were MANY comments on my own kids. Many. All trying to chat with Mal and Clay. Trying to get them to give them high-5's or say Hello. So sweet and genuine.
We said our good-byes and I reassured them I would be back. How could I not?? When the walked out the door, it hit me. Hard. I started to cry. Tears of gratitude. Tears of reassurance. Who knows. I just felt really moved. Really missed.
We took a long, walk down the hallway to say Hello to fellow co-workers and friends and to catch up. It was so great to see familiar, smiley faces. Hugs, laughter, small talk. It was wonderful.
A lovely visit which left me pondering. How in the world can I LOVE two jobs? How in the world can I do TWO jobs? I can't tell you how many times people have asked me if I am going back next year. Friday's scene had me think twice. But, last year was a horrible year for me. Trying to balance being a good teacher and mom was just too much. I honestly don't know how working moms do it. How they keep themselves collected.
My friend/co-worker who witnessed the scene and who knows me so well gave helpful advice. Stay at home--where I should be for a few years, where I want to be--then head back into the classroom. "Your tears show that you are a great teacher." And how could I not? Is it that simple? Who knows. I just thought this leaving business would be easier than it has been. I thought I would leave without looking back. Oh, how I was SO wrong.
Top 10 for the week:
This week was great! Lots of funny, cute memories that I am excited to share!
10. Hairdresser. I cut Clay's hair. No I am not licensed. No I have never cut hair before (if Barbie hair doesn't count). It was a first and it won't be the last. I have not found another calling like my mother thinks. BUT I will be saving us money every three or so months on Clayton's haircuts.
9. TV. I had a day without television this week. Not that big of a deal. In fact, the only time I watch TV is at night after the kids go to bed. A bit of an unwinder. But after getting everything done for the day, I read instead. It was great. Even greater that I can brag about not watching TV for a day:o)
8. Daddy & Daughter Dinner. This past Sunday Mal and Jay cooked dinner together. A breakfast dinner of pancakes, bacon, and hash browns. It was priceless. Mal in her T-shirt and underwear, standing on top of a chair, flipping pancakes alongside her Daddy. Adorable. And even more adorable how in sync they were with each other. Smiling, laughing, having a ball. Sunday dinners will now be made by Mallory and Daddy. Tonight is chili.
7. Clay's Check-up. We have a big boy on our hands. 97% in height, 86% in weight, and STILL off the charts with his BIG head. EVERY single time I go to the doctor with Clay he asks me WHO has the big head in the family! And EVERY time he sizes up MY head and nods understandingly. UGH. Yes people, I have a big head. Thank-you dad. Anyways, he did well and the doctor confirmed what I already knew. His nonverbal cues show he is smart. He will talk. Someday. (We were ordered to get rid of the paci. Hard when you have a screamer in public and in the car and anywhere).
6. God's Timing. Tuesday on our way to drop of Mallory to preschool, we noticed a HUGE rainbow. Mal LOVES rainbows. I pulled over in the gas station so she could see it. I told her it was a good luck sign from God to wish her well at school. Love the grin that girl gives. Needless to say, I will be pulling over with EVERY rainbow from now on.
5. French Fry. Thursday after picking Mal up from school, we grabbed Wendy's for a picnic in the park. Clay was screaming in the backseat due to hunger pains. Mal was clutching onto her Kid's Meal. I asked her if she could give Clay a fry. To my utter surprise she did. In fact, after pulling it out of her bag, she blew on it to cool it down, and then proceeded to tell him to make sure to take small bites and that it might be hot. Love my little mother hen.
4. Nana's Visit. Having my mom visit is always a blessing. Not only because the kids LOVE her but it also gives me a little break. Due to requests, I don't have to go through Mallory's LONG, bedtime routine or even take her to the potty. Small, but SO big. Thanks mom. Love you. Come ANYTIME you want.
3. Mallory quotes for the week:
"I smell like angels." Referring to touching my Guardian angel pin in the car. No honey, that's metal.
"No mom, that is not a baby deer. It is two years old. It doesn't have spots." Wow. Guess I need to listen to Daddy and Papa more. Miss All-Animals-Are-My-Friends.
2. Girl's Night Out. Oh Kattie Northrup. Where would I be without you??? LOST. She drove with me up to Kalamazoo Thursday night to shop at the mall, buy groceries at Meijer, and have ice cream at Coldstone Creamery. It was AWESOME. And I love how we can catch up so quickly with no dull moments. Girl time, catching up, and shopping. What is not to love about that?
1. Clayton the Locksmith*. Oh Sir Clayton. He is one smart boy. While Mal was at school on Tuesday, Clay and I headed to Walgreens. On the way out I let him play with my keys. I buckled him into his seat, closed the door, and was about to put our purchases in the car when the car alarm started going off. YES, Clayton locked himself in our car. You should have seen the look on that boy's face. Pure joy. PURE joy. I was freaked. TOTALLY. Luckily, it only lasted a second because then I noticed he was continually pushing the buttons on the clicker. I was able to open the door at one point and turn OFF the alarm. Oh, the joys of motherhood.
That is it friendly readers. Have a great week!! Let's hope it will be as great as last:o)
Mrs. Newell
*My school visit tied for #1
Sunday, September 16, 2012
We Survived
So, no BIG story today. Just my Top 10 for the week. Nothing really stuck out in my head...just lots of little things that made the week.
Top 10 for this past week:
10. Clean Microwave. I cleaned my microwave today. I know this is small but the fact that I had time AND did it, makes me feel good.
9. Nap Time Circles. Little Miss Mallory. Love her. But dislike how she acts before and during naps (sometimes). She's on this "I don't need a nap" kick. Which I am fine with. BUT she DOES! After Monday, Tuesday, and Thursday of NO NAP, I realized Thursday--she NEEDS MORE NAPS. I figured it out this week. Which was HUGE. A realization that our daughter will be having "rest" time EVERY day. Just not sure how to get her to stay in bed to accomplish this. Friday she laid down willingly and today it was a bit of a struggle....but once I read another book to her, put Tipper (our dog) in her room, opened the door, took the "cozy" comforter off our bed and in her room, she FINALLY fell asleep. Thank goodness, she needed that! Clay is a rather different story. After 3 1/2 months he is finally on a nap schedule. He sleeps 45-60 minutes in the morning and about the same if not longer in the afternoon. He could use a longer afternoon nap (he is zonked out at 7:30PM) but once he wakes himself up, he struggles to go back to sleep. And proceeds to cry and run down the hallway to WAKE his sister up (yeah, just had to run down the hallway to GET him!! Seriously). As every parent does (I would think so at least), nap time is needed for our sanity. I also enjoy blogging, scrapping, cleaning, reading, talking on the phone, or whatever else comes my way during OUR nap time. I am shocked that I NO longer need my own sleeping naps. My husband can attest to this--I am a true napper. But just recently (last few months), I can't sleep during the day anymore. A sign of getting old?
8. Consignment LOVE. I am ALMOST done with our leftovers of our yard sale! I cannot tell you how much joy this brings me. I am sick of all the extra clutter in our basement when I am trying so hard to organize it. I ended up taking two more loads to Goodwill and then a load to the consignment store. They took everything! Which I was super pumped about. AND I had a check there for $23. Not much. But extra cash for me (I claim it because I took it. Sorry Jay. And it's not like I spend it on myself anyways). We also scored a Curious George stuffed animal. I know, I know. I try really hard to not have TOO many in our house and YES I did take some to Goodwill a few weeks ago. BUT if you know my daughter...you know she is IN LOVE with "Georgie." Ask her about landfills, how to make maple syrup, or what a compost pile is and she WILL tell you. So, George is not so bad.
7. Cousin LOVE. We had a chance to see Baby Hudson this weekend. He is getting so big. And my kids ADORE him. Like, almost obsessively. It was quite comical how they were both fighting over him. Poor Clayman wanted to hold him so badly. Maybe next time buddy! It is also sweet how much they love him already. I knew Mal was a baby lover (she will head straight to a baby before saying hi to any adult) but to see Clay following in her footsteps is so sweet. Yes, he is sweet AND a boy. He will be rough and tough but sweet and gentle as well! Yes Jay, he will.
6. Bad day. Good day. It's funny how that works. Thursday was a horrible day for me and if you'd like to know about it, read the blog prior to this one (I didn't publish it on Facebook because I was halfheartedly ashamed but needed to get it out there). I'm learning as I go with this stay-at-home business. Some things work and some things need tweaking. I'm okay with that. But some days (not many, just a few so far) I have seriously thought I wasn't doing enough. Crazy right?!?!?! I know, ask my husband. I was a bit crazy that day. I was sad. Distraught over thinking I wasn't giving my children everything they needed. Nothing is perfect. No one is perfect. Life is not perfect. Live and learn. And I have. To which, Friday was GREAT. We had a great day at the park with a picnic with new friends, nice naps, nice carrot time after naps (see #5). It seriously was a great day. Made me STILL appreciate being home. Huh. God works in mystery, yet SO smart, ways:o)
5. Carrots in Bed. One day this week Mal woke up and the three of us enjoyed carrots with ranch in her bed. It was sweet. We laughed a lot, read some books, and ate carrots. Simple. I enjoyed it. AND I LOVE the fact that they are choosing and requesting healthier snacks to eat.
4. New friends. This week we had some play dates with new families. It is pure joy to find mommys that are the same. No need to explain. You know what I am talking about here. It makes this mommy business easier when you can bond over similar tribulations. Again, God works in wonderful ways. I have prayed about finding others to relate to and share my new job with and looky here--I've found some. (I know this is somewhat dorky, nerdy, whatever you'd like to call me. But I worried about this. And to know that a few weeks in and I have some mommy friends I could call, makes me smile).
3. Harvest Time. Just starting last year, Mal began to notice the tractors and farmers harvesting the crops around our property. It is so much fun to watch. The kids could sit/stand for hours watching them go up and down the fields. Unfortunately, it was during a weekday this year so Jay was unable to partake in the event with us. Mal kept asking why they were harvesting OUR corn and commented that one of the farmers "bonked" at us when he actually honked his horn at us:o) Jay is enjoying the corn being gone due to the fact that now he is able to clearly see the deer around us. He has summoned Mal into this hunt as well.
2. Mal's 1st Dance Class. It was Monday. She was so pumped in her little leotard and skirt. It was a joy watching her dance with the other little girls. Once again, I saw how shy our little girl truly acts. She did great and listened well. There were several girls running around the room throughout the class and I was glad to see Mal following directions. I'm not saying Miss Mal is perfect (See end of paragraph) but she did very well. I loved the way Miss Amy taught the dance moves. Pretending to release a balloon into the air and placing a crown on your head to stand tall. It was a great mommy moment until the end. In the parking lot Mal had a HUGE tantrum because she did not want to leave. I'm sure the other moms next to the open windows in the dance building were able to hear and witness the whole thing. It was great. It was even better when I had to stop on the side of the road on the way home to have a little chat:o) Let's just say that Monday, she WILL be getting a nap in the afternoon before dance class.
1. Conversations. This week has been an odd week for conversations with my daughter. One day in the car she asked me what was written on one of her toys. This is how the conversation went:
Me: It says Made in China.
Mal: What is China?
Me: A country over the ocean.
Mal: How did it get here?
Me: On a boat.
Mal: Who put it on the boat?
Me: Workers.
Mal: Oh.
When I told Jay about this conversation, he suggested using phrases that were somewhat inappropriate for our little daughter to hear:o) I would also like you to know that we talked about China and the ocean several other times this week. It makes me realize that our world is SO big. How do you explain to a 3 year old this concept without it being to over her head? I also LOVE how she asks so many questions now. I know this can be irritating at times, but right now, I LOVE that she is interested in knowing about our world.
That is it! Another end to a week in September! It was another growing and learning week for ALL of us in the Newell Household. Oh--and YES, our Halloween/Fall decorations are already up:o) I know I'm early, but I LOVE enjoying them.
Have a great week!
*I had another one for last week that I remembered midway this week! On Thursday, my parents were here visiting. We went out to dinner at Amores and then headed to show them Mal's preschool. As we were approaching her school, my mom asked her if the blue building was her school (which it was). She said no and then saw the statue of Mary in front of the building. Excitedly she told Nana, "YES! That is my school! There is the Mary God!" It was the sweetest, most innocent thing. My mom and I couldn't stop smiling, and laughing inside.
Top 10 for this past week:
10. Clean Microwave. I cleaned my microwave today. I know this is small but the fact that I had time AND did it, makes me feel good.
9. Nap Time Circles. Little Miss Mallory. Love her. But dislike how she acts before and during naps (sometimes). She's on this "I don't need a nap" kick. Which I am fine with. BUT she DOES! After Monday, Tuesday, and Thursday of NO NAP, I realized Thursday--she NEEDS MORE NAPS. I figured it out this week. Which was HUGE. A realization that our daughter will be having "rest" time EVERY day. Just not sure how to get her to stay in bed to accomplish this. Friday she laid down willingly and today it was a bit of a struggle....but once I read another book to her, put Tipper (our dog) in her room, opened the door, took the "cozy" comforter off our bed and in her room, she FINALLY fell asleep. Thank goodness, she needed that! Clay is a rather different story. After 3 1/2 months he is finally on a nap schedule. He sleeps 45-60 minutes in the morning and about the same if not longer in the afternoon. He could use a longer afternoon nap (he is zonked out at 7:30PM) but once he wakes himself up, he struggles to go back to sleep. And proceeds to cry and run down the hallway to WAKE his sister up (yeah, just had to run down the hallway to GET him!! Seriously). As every parent does (I would think so at least), nap time is needed for our sanity. I also enjoy blogging, scrapping, cleaning, reading, talking on the phone, or whatever else comes my way during OUR nap time. I am shocked that I NO longer need my own sleeping naps. My husband can attest to this--I am a true napper. But just recently (last few months), I can't sleep during the day anymore. A sign of getting old?
8. Consignment LOVE. I am ALMOST done with our leftovers of our yard sale! I cannot tell you how much joy this brings me. I am sick of all the extra clutter in our basement when I am trying so hard to organize it. I ended up taking two more loads to Goodwill and then a load to the consignment store. They took everything! Which I was super pumped about. AND I had a check there for $23. Not much. But extra cash for me (I claim it because I took it. Sorry Jay. And it's not like I spend it on myself anyways). We also scored a Curious George stuffed animal. I know, I know. I try really hard to not have TOO many in our house and YES I did take some to Goodwill a few weeks ago. BUT if you know my daughter...you know she is IN LOVE with "Georgie." Ask her about landfills, how to make maple syrup, or what a compost pile is and she WILL tell you. So, George is not so bad.
7. Cousin LOVE. We had a chance to see Baby Hudson this weekend. He is getting so big. And my kids ADORE him. Like, almost obsessively. It was quite comical how they were both fighting over him. Poor Clayman wanted to hold him so badly. Maybe next time buddy! It is also sweet how much they love him already. I knew Mal was a baby lover (she will head straight to a baby before saying hi to any adult) but to see Clay following in her footsteps is so sweet. Yes, he is sweet AND a boy. He will be rough and tough but sweet and gentle as well! Yes Jay, he will.
6. Bad day. Good day. It's funny how that works. Thursday was a horrible day for me and if you'd like to know about it, read the blog prior to this one (I didn't publish it on Facebook because I was halfheartedly ashamed but needed to get it out there). I'm learning as I go with this stay-at-home business. Some things work and some things need tweaking. I'm okay with that. But some days (not many, just a few so far) I have seriously thought I wasn't doing enough. Crazy right?!?!?! I know, ask my husband. I was a bit crazy that day. I was sad. Distraught over thinking I wasn't giving my children everything they needed. Nothing is perfect. No one is perfect. Life is not perfect. Live and learn. And I have. To which, Friday was GREAT. We had a great day at the park with a picnic with new friends, nice naps, nice carrot time after naps (see #5). It seriously was a great day. Made me STILL appreciate being home. Huh. God works in mystery, yet SO smart, ways:o)
5. Carrots in Bed. One day this week Mal woke up and the three of us enjoyed carrots with ranch in her bed. It was sweet. We laughed a lot, read some books, and ate carrots. Simple. I enjoyed it. AND I LOVE the fact that they are choosing and requesting healthier snacks to eat.
4. New friends. This week we had some play dates with new families. It is pure joy to find mommys that are the same. No need to explain. You know what I am talking about here. It makes this mommy business easier when you can bond over similar tribulations. Again, God works in wonderful ways. I have prayed about finding others to relate to and share my new job with and looky here--I've found some. (I know this is somewhat dorky, nerdy, whatever you'd like to call me. But I worried about this. And to know that a few weeks in and I have some mommy friends I could call, makes me smile).
3. Harvest Time. Just starting last year, Mal began to notice the tractors and farmers harvesting the crops around our property. It is so much fun to watch. The kids could sit/stand for hours watching them go up and down the fields. Unfortunately, it was during a weekday this year so Jay was unable to partake in the event with us. Mal kept asking why they were harvesting OUR corn and commented that one of the farmers "bonked" at us when he actually honked his horn at us:o) Jay is enjoying the corn being gone due to the fact that now he is able to clearly see the deer around us. He has summoned Mal into this hunt as well.
2. Mal's 1st Dance Class. It was Monday. She was so pumped in her little leotard and skirt. It was a joy watching her dance with the other little girls. Once again, I saw how shy our little girl truly acts. She did great and listened well. There were several girls running around the room throughout the class and I was glad to see Mal following directions. I'm not saying Miss Mal is perfect (See end of paragraph) but she did very well. I loved the way Miss Amy taught the dance moves. Pretending to release a balloon into the air and placing a crown on your head to stand tall. It was a great mommy moment until the end. In the parking lot Mal had a HUGE tantrum because she did not want to leave. I'm sure the other moms next to the open windows in the dance building were able to hear and witness the whole thing. It was great. It was even better when I had to stop on the side of the road on the way home to have a little chat:o) Let's just say that Monday, she WILL be getting a nap in the afternoon before dance class.
1. Conversations. This week has been an odd week for conversations with my daughter. One day in the car she asked me what was written on one of her toys. This is how the conversation went:
Me: It says Made in China.
Mal: What is China?
Me: A country over the ocean.
Mal: How did it get here?
Me: On a boat.
Mal: Who put it on the boat?
Me: Workers.
Mal: Oh.
When I told Jay about this conversation, he suggested using phrases that were somewhat inappropriate for our little daughter to hear:o) I would also like you to know that we talked about China and the ocean several other times this week. It makes me realize that our world is SO big. How do you explain to a 3 year old this concept without it being to over her head? I also LOVE how she asks so many questions now. I know this can be irritating at times, but right now, I LOVE that she is interested in knowing about our world.
That is it! Another end to a week in September! It was another growing and learning week for ALL of us in the Newell Household. Oh--and YES, our Halloween/Fall decorations are already up:o) I know I'm early, but I LOVE enjoying them.
Have a great week!
*I had another one for last week that I remembered midway this week! On Thursday, my parents were here visiting. We went out to dinner at Amores and then headed to show them Mal's preschool. As we were approaching her school, my mom asked her if the blue building was her school (which it was). She said no and then saw the statue of Mary in front of the building. Excitedly she told Nana, "YES! That is my school! There is the Mary God!" It was the sweetest, most innocent thing. My mom and I couldn't stop smiling, and laughing inside.
Thursday, September 13, 2012
Rough Thursday
I have to admit that today has been a rough day.
I feel like I am failing at my job.
My 17 month old does not talk, my 3 1/2 year old does not know her colors, and the chocolate, sprinkle covered apples I made with the kids taste awful.
It was the last failure that put me over the edge today.
I'm upset. Thinking that I haven't done enough. I want to crawl into a hole and rewind, fast forward, stand still??? I'm not even sure.
Am I cramming too much into a year? Am I being too hard on myself?
I just can't understand what I have done wrong. How do I fix it without making it worse?
Since truly feeling the burden of these two things, today I have tried to "fix" them.
I made color flash cards for my daughter trying to make it light but deep down feeling heavy from the experience. I feel pushy. She guesses, and it's extremely obvious that she really doesn't know all her colors all the time.*
I wouldn't give my son his paci until he told me "yes." It's nap time. He sleeps with a paci. 15 minutes or so (felt like forever) of crying, shaking his head up and down, frustration on his part and mine, until finally I just gave in and gave him his paci.
I know it's early in their lives. I just feel like the whole reason why I am home this year is to make a difference in our kids' lives. And I already feel like I'm failing.
Not all days have felt like today. In fact, none have felt quite like today.
Here's to starting over after rest/nap time. And a little prayer that everything will work out.
*I had a flashback while working with my daughter today. I struggled a great deal in school from kindergarten up until college. I guess a part of me feels bad. Really bad that she might have to go through what I went through.
I feel like I am failing at my job.
My 17 month old does not talk, my 3 1/2 year old does not know her colors, and the chocolate, sprinkle covered apples I made with the kids taste awful.
It was the last failure that put me over the edge today.
I'm upset. Thinking that I haven't done enough. I want to crawl into a hole and rewind, fast forward, stand still??? I'm not even sure.
Am I cramming too much into a year? Am I being too hard on myself?
I just can't understand what I have done wrong. How do I fix it without making it worse?
Since truly feeling the burden of these two things, today I have tried to "fix" them.
I made color flash cards for my daughter trying to make it light but deep down feeling heavy from the experience. I feel pushy. She guesses, and it's extremely obvious that she really doesn't know all her colors all the time.*
I wouldn't give my son his paci until he told me "yes." It's nap time. He sleeps with a paci. 15 minutes or so (felt like forever) of crying, shaking his head up and down, frustration on his part and mine, until finally I just gave in and gave him his paci.
I know it's early in their lives. I just feel like the whole reason why I am home this year is to make a difference in our kids' lives. And I already feel like I'm failing.
Not all days have felt like today. In fact, none have felt quite like today.
Here's to starting over after rest/nap time. And a little prayer that everything will work out.
*I had a flashback while working with my daughter today. I struggled a great deal in school from kindergarten up until college. I guess a part of me feels bad. Really bad that she might have to go through what I went through.
Monday, September 10, 2012
Short-and-Sweet
So, this week I was totally going to give you the drawn out version of how Jay and I met. But once I got started, I realized that the little things really didn't matter so much. This lead me to a short and sweet version--which is how our life truly is right now with two kids!!
Backtrack to my second year at Decatur. Enjoying my job, my afterschool life in Kalamazoo. Volunteered to particpate (not play really! Ha!) in a staff/student basketball game. Met Jay there (he was a little league coach at the time). Went out afterwards to M40--which was my FIRST time there. Chatted a bit. The next week, his name was mentioned to me by the PE teacher. Told another teacher. Who then proceeded to call him and tell him to visit him for lunch. A few more lunches later, I asked him if he wanted my number. First date was on a Thursday. Second was that Saturday. Third was that Sunday (I of course had to work on "school" stuff! Yeah, right!). The rest is history!
It didn't take me long to realize he was the one for me. There was no drama. No questions. No uneasiness. No complications. Our relationship came extremely easy and was "perfect" for me. I had butterflies, smiles, gazes, and was happy around him all the time. I guess you could say I was smittened! AND he was different than the others. He called. Wanted to hang out with me. Laughed at my jokes. Treated me well. Cared about me.
A year and a half later in September, we moved in together and by December we were engaged.
That following September we were married. It was the perfect day. Warm, windy, sunny. The whole day I was in smiles and giggles. No tears were shed, there was no drama. I was just extremely happy to finally meet my man, the one that was for me.
Fast forward five years later, which brings us to this past weekend. It was an extreme blessing. We had so much fun being together again--just the two of us. What I discovered from this weekend is I still ENJOY my husband's company SO much.
I guess that's what's suppose to happen when you find the right person for you. Even though every day is not perfect, and even a week might seem like you're just going through the motions, you still can reconnect. Somewhere, sometime. This past weekend was our reconnection. It felt great. And appreciated.
Last week's Top SEVEN (couldn't think of 3 more!):
7. Clayton. Everywhere I go, he draws attention. He wins over everyone. From the old men at the grocery store on a Thursday afternoon to the teenagers at the library on Monday. Everywhere I go, people (old, young, men, women, boys, girls) notice him and are drawn to him. I already feel we are in trouble! He has his daddy's personality--that is for sure.
6. Plugged toilet. Now, I guess I should have seen this one coming or questioned why we were going through so much toilet paper. My mother-brain was not working? Mal plugged the toilet with about 30 sheets of paper. It was great. She watched in awe as I plunged her toilet paper out. Do you think 4 squares is enough? For a 3 1/2 year old?? I thinks so. We will see.
5. Accident Prone. My boy. He is so accident prone. This week we can add to the I'm-a-rough-boy list a skinned knee and elbow. This is underneath, black eye, bruised ear (ran into wall), and fat lip. Boys will be boys right???? Gosh, I don't know if I'm going to be able to make it to football games!!
4. Preschool ROCKS. No really it does. My daughter, my little sponge, is taking it all in. It amazes me how much more she learns from class than from what I try and teach her. Different environment? More structure? Not her mother? Whatever it is, it's working. And I'm loving it.
3. Bike-Rider. We have a new bike rider in the house. Her name is Mallory Jayne Newell. It took us all summer, but we finally mastered (or somewhat) bike riding. Such a proud moment for her and me!!
2. Bunny! I was reading a story to Mal before bedtime when Jay walked in with something behind his back. He made her get down from her bed before he showed her the bunny he had found in our backyard. He was little, grey, and scared. Mal was in glee! And amazed. Asking a mile a minute questions about where he had found this little bunny. (My heart melts every time I see a moment between Jay and Mal. He knows her so well).
1. Our anniversary weekend:0) No need to say anything more.
Backtrack to my second year at Decatur. Enjoying my job, my afterschool life in Kalamazoo. Volunteered to particpate (not play really! Ha!) in a staff/student basketball game. Met Jay there (he was a little league coach at the time). Went out afterwards to M40--which was my FIRST time there. Chatted a bit. The next week, his name was mentioned to me by the PE teacher. Told another teacher. Who then proceeded to call him and tell him to visit him for lunch. A few more lunches later, I asked him if he wanted my number. First date was on a Thursday. Second was that Saturday. Third was that Sunday (I of course had to work on "school" stuff! Yeah, right!). The rest is history!
It didn't take me long to realize he was the one for me. There was no drama. No questions. No uneasiness. No complications. Our relationship came extremely easy and was "perfect" for me. I had butterflies, smiles, gazes, and was happy around him all the time. I guess you could say I was smittened! AND he was different than the others. He called. Wanted to hang out with me. Laughed at my jokes. Treated me well. Cared about me.
A year and a half later in September, we moved in together and by December we were engaged.
That following September we were married. It was the perfect day. Warm, windy, sunny. The whole day I was in smiles and giggles. No tears were shed, there was no drama. I was just extremely happy to finally meet my man, the one that was for me.
Fast forward five years later, which brings us to this past weekend. It was an extreme blessing. We had so much fun being together again--just the two of us. What I discovered from this weekend is I still ENJOY my husband's company SO much.
I guess that's what's suppose to happen when you find the right person for you. Even though every day is not perfect, and even a week might seem like you're just going through the motions, you still can reconnect. Somewhere, sometime. This past weekend was our reconnection. It felt great. And appreciated.
Last week's Top SEVEN (couldn't think of 3 more!):
7. Clayton. Everywhere I go, he draws attention. He wins over everyone. From the old men at the grocery store on a Thursday afternoon to the teenagers at the library on Monday. Everywhere I go, people (old, young, men, women, boys, girls) notice him and are drawn to him. I already feel we are in trouble! He has his daddy's personality--that is for sure.
6. Plugged toilet. Now, I guess I should have seen this one coming or questioned why we were going through so much toilet paper. My mother-brain was not working? Mal plugged the toilet with about 30 sheets of paper. It was great. She watched in awe as I plunged her toilet paper out. Do you think 4 squares is enough? For a 3 1/2 year old?? I thinks so. We will see.
5. Accident Prone. My boy. He is so accident prone. This week we can add to the I'm-a-rough-boy list a skinned knee and elbow. This is underneath, black eye, bruised ear (ran into wall), and fat lip. Boys will be boys right???? Gosh, I don't know if I'm going to be able to make it to football games!!
4. Preschool ROCKS. No really it does. My daughter, my little sponge, is taking it all in. It amazes me how much more she learns from class than from what I try and teach her. Different environment? More structure? Not her mother? Whatever it is, it's working. And I'm loving it.
3. Bike-Rider. We have a new bike rider in the house. Her name is Mallory Jayne Newell. It took us all summer, but we finally mastered (or somewhat) bike riding. Such a proud moment for her and me!!
2. Bunny! I was reading a story to Mal before bedtime when Jay walked in with something behind his back. He made her get down from her bed before he showed her the bunny he had found in our backyard. He was little, grey, and scared. Mal was in glee! And amazed. Asking a mile a minute questions about where he had found this little bunny. (My heart melts every time I see a moment between Jay and Mal. He knows her so well).
1. Our anniversary weekend:0) No need to say anything more.
Monday, September 3, 2012
Hello FULL Moon.
I remember having those moments as a teacher, when someone would comment how there was a full moon. I would nod my head, look back on the week, and say "OH YEAH! That totally makes sense now." During full moons, kids are crazy. Crazy in the sense where things are just not right and you can't quite figure out what is making them behave so irrationally. Yes, some may say it's just the way kids act. But honestly, follow the full moon and follow the way your kids act and it all makes sense in some bizarre-out-there way. Ask any teacher or parent, they know!!
I had one of those moments this week. Except it was with MY own children. The full moon was this past Friday and unfortunately I was reaping it's strange influence on my kids a few days early. I seriously wanted to just fly the chicken coup. Leave town. Or maybe just lock myself in a closet and listen to some calming music. Now, don't get me wrong. My kids are not horrible. And usually I can diffuse the situation or change the mood. This past week was different. It lasted more than a few hours and it was hard to see any good in what was happening at my house. It just seemed like there was a bit more bickering, a bit more whining, and a bit more I-don't-want-tos. Enough to drive me over the edge. I should mention that my husband has golf on Wednesdays, so I am with the kids all day. From morning until night. Now I know that some of you are not-so lucky and your husbands have jobs that keep them away for days. I feel for you. I honestly do. And maybe you become accustomed to that? But I am used to having just a day or so without my hubby. I can handle that. Except when there are full moons.
Timeouts, switching activities, and many other distractions did not help. SO, I thought to myself, where can my sanity be found? And it dawned on me. THE CAR. I'm sure most of you can relate. The feeling of relief when you finally get your lovely children ready, in the car, and lastly, BUCKLED. They can't move, bicker (mine are still young--I know in time this will change), and are completely stuck in ONE place for a moment. What could I do in the car? Off the top of my head, I came up with a car scavenger hunt. Mallory helped me think of objects we could put on our list and I drew big pictures and labeled them on a large piece of paper. I exaggerated to them both how much fun we were going to have playing this scavenger hunt. Both were instantly hooked. And I was already pleased. I gave Mal a marker and the paper and we quickly got ready and headed out to the car. After buckling them in, I instantly felt better. My diet Pepsi beside me, the radio playing some kid bop, and BOTH kids buckled in behind me put me at an even greater ease. Why hadn't I thought of this earlier??? We left around 5:45 PM and tooled around our country neighborhood for about an hour. I had Mallory tell me what direction to turn and we got lost. We traveled down MANY dirt roads and even ended up in Lawrence, a nearby town. It was hilarious hearing Mal explain all of her findings. She had me put on our list a fence with a dog behind it which ended up being a hard one to find. We are in the COUNTRY here people. We never ended up finding a cat, but we did find horses, cows, chickens, pigs, and dogs. Both kids were extremely entertained and QUIET. Except for when something was found!:o) I had a moment of I'm-being-selfish due to the price of gas. But honestly, a babysitter would have cost MORE or any other activity would have been the same. My rationalizing! Clay ended up falling asleep for the last 15 minutes or so. It was nice to observe with Mal and listen to nature. It is truly amazing what I can do in my car to entertain my kids!!:o)
After we got home, I was collected. Back to power mom and not I'm-going-crazy mom. And of course I had to pat myself on the back because I'm getting it. After three or so months of being home, I'm feeling great with where I am at and how I am taking in and adapting to staying home. AND I love it. AND I don't miss school. Although if you would have asked me last Wednesday if I had wanted to join in on the Professional Development at school....I probably would have jumped at the chance!!! Because of that darn FULL MOON!!
This week's Top 10:
10. Monthly Meal Plan. I saw this on Pinterest and did it for August and I LOVED it. At the beginning of each month, I plan out our dinner meals for the whole month. Sounds daunting. But it's easier in the long run and I feel like I"m getting a better variety for us.
9. Helping others. I love helping others and it seems I am able to do more now that I am home. I rope my kids into helping as well and it just makes me feel great.
8. Not stressing. No need to say anything more.
7. Time for myself. Rare but there. And even better now that I don't fret over being gone so long. I am with them ALL week so what's a few hours:o)
6. Summer. Coming to an end. I'm okay with that. In fact, my sis-in-law tells me the fall is the BEST time of year to be home. I love fall and am excited to do "fall things" with the kiddos. Goodbye Summer, HELLO Fall!!
5. Jay's Birthday. Sorry Jay, you made #5:o) We had a great day celebrating with just us and then his whole extended family. I finally felt I could give him more attention (due to it usually always being the weekend before school starts) and I actually was relaxed and not thinking about other things! LIKE school!
4. Bible Study. An old-far away friend asked me to do a bible study with her. I know this doesn't sound like a big deal, but it was HUGE for me. I've been rekindling my faith and trying to figure my new life (not sure that's the word) and having her ask me--makes me believe even more!! So excited to start.
3. ZUMBA love. A friend of mine hooked me on Zumba. It's so addicting and such a great workout that doesn't even feel like a workout! I enjoy my once a week (hopefully, twice a week) time by myself that makes me sweat!! A LOT!!
2. LOVE from my old staff. I have to admit that I think I was the most worried about my friendships with school people. I was nervous that I wouldn't be able to stay in contact or maintain the relationships I have with my teacher friends. Boy was I wrong! On Tuesday, the first day of PD, I had one friend call me at 4:00, another call me at 4:30, and another I saw at Zumba that night! I'm feeling the love ladies! Thank-you!
1. Mal's FIRST day of Preschool. I already blogged about this so I won't go into details but this was definitely number ONE on my list this past week. What a great chance to witness my baby growing up. I will never forget that day and how excited I was to be home to share it with her. (I'm still tearing up writing about this!)
***Our anniversary is September 8th. We are leaving to go up to Traverse City this Friday (thanks to Jay planning it!). SO excited to get away with my hubby and NO kids for three days!!! WOOHOO!!****
I had one of those moments this week. Except it was with MY own children. The full moon was this past Friday and unfortunately I was reaping it's strange influence on my kids a few days early. I seriously wanted to just fly the chicken coup. Leave town. Or maybe just lock myself in a closet and listen to some calming music. Now, don't get me wrong. My kids are not horrible. And usually I can diffuse the situation or change the mood. This past week was different. It lasted more than a few hours and it was hard to see any good in what was happening at my house. It just seemed like there was a bit more bickering, a bit more whining, and a bit more I-don't-want-tos. Enough to drive me over the edge. I should mention that my husband has golf on Wednesdays, so I am with the kids all day. From morning until night. Now I know that some of you are not-so lucky and your husbands have jobs that keep them away for days. I feel for you. I honestly do. And maybe you become accustomed to that? But I am used to having just a day or so without my hubby. I can handle that. Except when there are full moons.
Timeouts, switching activities, and many other distractions did not help. SO, I thought to myself, where can my sanity be found? And it dawned on me. THE CAR. I'm sure most of you can relate. The feeling of relief when you finally get your lovely children ready, in the car, and lastly, BUCKLED. They can't move, bicker (mine are still young--I know in time this will change), and are completely stuck in ONE place for a moment. What could I do in the car? Off the top of my head, I came up with a car scavenger hunt. Mallory helped me think of objects we could put on our list and I drew big pictures and labeled them on a large piece of paper. I exaggerated to them both how much fun we were going to have playing this scavenger hunt. Both were instantly hooked. And I was already pleased. I gave Mal a marker and the paper and we quickly got ready and headed out to the car. After buckling them in, I instantly felt better. My diet Pepsi beside me, the radio playing some kid bop, and BOTH kids buckled in behind me put me at an even greater ease. Why hadn't I thought of this earlier??? We left around 5:45 PM and tooled around our country neighborhood for about an hour. I had Mallory tell me what direction to turn and we got lost. We traveled down MANY dirt roads and even ended up in Lawrence, a nearby town. It was hilarious hearing Mal explain all of her findings. She had me put on our list a fence with a dog behind it which ended up being a hard one to find. We are in the COUNTRY here people. We never ended up finding a cat, but we did find horses, cows, chickens, pigs, and dogs. Both kids were extremely entertained and QUIET. Except for when something was found!:o) I had a moment of I'm-being-selfish due to the price of gas. But honestly, a babysitter would have cost MORE or any other activity would have been the same. My rationalizing! Clay ended up falling asleep for the last 15 minutes or so. It was nice to observe with Mal and listen to nature. It is truly amazing what I can do in my car to entertain my kids!!:o)
After we got home, I was collected. Back to power mom and not I'm-going-crazy mom. And of course I had to pat myself on the back because I'm getting it. After three or so months of being home, I'm feeling great with where I am at and how I am taking in and adapting to staying home. AND I love it. AND I don't miss school. Although if you would have asked me last Wednesday if I had wanted to join in on the Professional Development at school....I probably would have jumped at the chance!!! Because of that darn FULL MOON!!
This week's Top 10:
10. Monthly Meal Plan. I saw this on Pinterest and did it for August and I LOVED it. At the beginning of each month, I plan out our dinner meals for the whole month. Sounds daunting. But it's easier in the long run and I feel like I"m getting a better variety for us.
9. Helping others. I love helping others and it seems I am able to do more now that I am home. I rope my kids into helping as well and it just makes me feel great.
8. Not stressing. No need to say anything more.
7. Time for myself. Rare but there. And even better now that I don't fret over being gone so long. I am with them ALL week so what's a few hours:o)
6. Summer. Coming to an end. I'm okay with that. In fact, my sis-in-law tells me the fall is the BEST time of year to be home. I love fall and am excited to do "fall things" with the kiddos. Goodbye Summer, HELLO Fall!!
5. Jay's Birthday. Sorry Jay, you made #5:o) We had a great day celebrating with just us and then his whole extended family. I finally felt I could give him more attention (due to it usually always being the weekend before school starts) and I actually was relaxed and not thinking about other things! LIKE school!
4. Bible Study. An old-far away friend asked me to do a bible study with her. I know this doesn't sound like a big deal, but it was HUGE for me. I've been rekindling my faith and trying to figure my new life (not sure that's the word) and having her ask me--makes me believe even more!! So excited to start.
3. ZUMBA love. A friend of mine hooked me on Zumba. It's so addicting and such a great workout that doesn't even feel like a workout! I enjoy my once a week (hopefully, twice a week) time by myself that makes me sweat!! A LOT!!
2. LOVE from my old staff. I have to admit that I think I was the most worried about my friendships with school people. I was nervous that I wouldn't be able to stay in contact or maintain the relationships I have with my teacher friends. Boy was I wrong! On Tuesday, the first day of PD, I had one friend call me at 4:00, another call me at 4:30, and another I saw at Zumba that night! I'm feeling the love ladies! Thank-you!
1. Mal's FIRST day of Preschool. I already blogged about this so I won't go into details but this was definitely number ONE on my list this past week. What a great chance to witness my baby growing up. I will never forget that day and how excited I was to be home to share it with her. (I'm still tearing up writing about this!)
***Our anniversary is September 8th. We are leaving to go up to Traverse City this Friday (thanks to Jay planning it!). SO excited to get away with my hubby and NO kids for three days!!! WOOHOO!!****
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